Saturday, February 28, 2009

Ten commandments for Perfect Peace Of Mind

Peace of mind is the most sought after 'commodity' in human life. It appears that most of us are in a state of perpetual restlessness. On analyzing the causes of this restlessness, Recently i came across a very nice piece of advice which i want to share on this space. Following are the ten solutions that need to be followed religiously if we are serious about achieving perfect peace of mind :)

1. Do not interfere in others' business

Most of us create our own problems by interfering too often in others' affairs. We do so because somehow we have convinced ourselves that our way is the best way, our logic is the perfect logic, and those who do not conform to our thinking must be criticized and steered to the right direction, our direction.

This kind of attitude on our part denies the existence of individuality and consequently the existence of God, for God has created each one of us in a unique way. No two human beings can think or act in exactly the same way. All men or women act the way they do because they are prompted to do so by the Divine within them. There is God to look after everything. Why are you bothered? Mind your own business and you will have your peace.

2. Forget and forgive

This is the most powerful aid to peace of mind. We often nurture ill feeling inside our heart for the person who insults or harms us. We forget that the insult or injury was done to us once but by nourishing the grievance we go on excavating the wound forever. Therefore it is essential that we cultivate the art of forgiving and forgetting. Believe in the justice of God and the doctrine of Karma. Let Him judge the act of the one who insulted you. Life is too short to waste in such trifles. Forget, forgive, and march on.

3. Do not crave for recognition

This world is full of selfish people. They seldom praise anybody without selfish motive. They may praise you today because you are rich and have power but no sooner you are powerless, they will forget your achievement and start criticizing you.

Moreover, no one is perfect. Then why do you value the words of praise of another mortal like you? Why do you crave for recognition? Believe in yourself. People's praises do not last long. Do your duties ethically and sincerely and leave the rest to God.

4. Do not be jealous

We all have experienced how jealousy can disturb our peace of mind. You know you work harder than your colleagues in the office but they get promotions, you do not. You started a business several years ago but you are not as successful as your neighbor whose business is only one year old. Should you be jealous? No, remember everybody's life is shaped by his previous Karma that has now become his destiny. If you are destined to be rich, not all the world can stop you. If you are not so destined, no one can help you either. Nothing will be gained by blaming others for your misfortune. Jealousy will not get you anywhere, but will only give you restlessness.

5. Change yourself according to the environment

If you try to change the environment single handedly, the chances are you may fail. Instead, change yourself to suit the environment. As you do this, even the environment, which has remained unfriendly for you, will mysteriously appear to be congenial and harmonious.

6. Endure what cannot be cured

This is the best way to turn a disadvantage into an advantage. Every day we face numerous inconveniences, ailments, irritations and accidents that are beyond our control. We must learn to endure them cheerfully thinking, "God will it so, so be it". God's logic is beyond our comprehension. Believe it and you will gain in patience, in inner strength, in will power.

7. Do not bite more than you can chew

This maxim should be always remembered. We often tend to take more responsibilities than we are capable to carry out. This is done to satisfy our ego. Know your limitations. Spend your free time on prayers, introspection and meditation. This will reduce those thoughts in your mind, which make you restless. Fewer the thoughts, greater is the peace of mind.

8. Meditate regularly

Meditation makes the mind thoughtless. This is the highest state of peace of mind. Try and experience it. If you meditate earnestly for half an hour every day, you will tend to become calm during the remaining twenty-three and a half hours. Your mind will not be disturbed as much as before. This will increase your efficiency and you will turn out more work in less time.

9. Never leave the mind vacant

An empty mind is devil's workshop. All evil deeds start in the mind. Keep your mind occupied in something positive, something worthwhile. Actively follow a hobby. You must decide what you value more - money or peace of mind. Your hobby, like social work may not always earn you more money, but you will have a sense of fulfillment and achievement. Even if you are resting physically, occupy yourself in healthy reading or mental chanting of God's name (japa).

10. Do not procrastinate and never regret

Do not waste time in wondering "should I or shouldn't I?" Days, weeks, months and years may be wasted in that futile mental debating. You can never plan enough because you can never anticipate all future happenings. Always remember God has His own plan too. Value your time and do things. It does not matter if you fail the first time. You can rectify your mistakes and succeed the next time. Sitting back and worrying will lead to nothing. Learn from your mistakes but do not brood over the past. DO NOT REGRET! Whatever happened was destined to happen only that way. Take it as the will of God. You do not have the power to alter the course of God's will. Why cry?

God Bless You All,


Thursday, February 26, 2009

An Ordinary day :)

It's been long time i wrote nythin on ma blog...Maybe coz there was no flashback stuff left or maybe m too busy in finding ways which can keep me busy. Well, rite now I m thinking about movie I saw last night "Fight Club". This movie revolves around a guy who considers himself worth for nothin. Noone cares about him whether he is dead or alive. He considers evry human being moving around him as a xerox copy of each other. Evryone is lying, evryone's heart is filled up with haterd n envy, evryone is playing the same game..evrywhere. After watching that movie i realized that there was not much difference between his n my world..ppl around me. I liked one of pitt's dialogue i.e "Things u own ends up owning you" well, that's 200% true. Anyways after watching that movie i got to know that one of ma roomies b'day is there. It was 2:30 AM n i was feelin hell lot of tired..i lost my patience n slept. Morning i woke up..took my sweet morning fag n then wished b'day boy. Then for a while i thought what should i do or think today to make my day smooth..think...think...think....nothin came into my mind n i left that thought in midway only ;). Usually i do such inspirational crap but at the end it makes me feel as if m a psycho or highly depressed guy.....n desperately need all this. At the end of day only one question remains in ma mind Y she did this thing to me?..Y sumone came into my life n made such a huge diffrence..which m not going to fill it ever again... Evrything happens for a reason, may b there is some fu**in reason behind it. But yes, life is very unpredictable..u never know whats next !.
As usual
Sudhir, my colleague came on to my desk n asking for a smoke. Ok, enough for 2day..i'll make a move now :)

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Tuesday, February 10, 2009

Final Flashback

Days passed n i got transferred to chennai. My first impression for chennai was

1. Heat heat heat heat and heat....
4.Ofcourse, Rajnikanth ;)

The moment i stepped out of my A.C bus, i was in totally soaked in sweat. It was sweating like hell...i thought if it continues like that then soon I'll die of dehydration. Somehow i managed to land in my friend's room. From my first day i started my counting days when I'll b out of this hell. Everything was a big headache there...starting from morning till u fall asleep. Then she called me n i told her, how m bearing this third degree torcher. She was listening for a while n then told me only one sentence..."Always there will b two options in ur life, either stay happy or feel down...probability for staying happy will always b 50%, in worst case also" ...those words made gr8 impact on my mind. After that i never felt down or irritated during my stay in chennai.

That day i woke up in morning n as usual she miss called me. She was not talking normally...i sensed sumthin is wrong. After asking for many times, she told me the matter. A married psycho from her project was creating the problem. I told her to report this matter to high level management, but then she told me that this married psycho is manager or sumthin n she can't do nythin. At that moment i thought of catchin bus to hyderabad n knock that psycho on floor. But then she started taking this matter light. Evrytime when i used to ask about him, she use to change the topic sayin evrythin is going fine. One day i asked her frankly WHATS GOING ON????...she told me we both became good friends !!. I was surprised, shocked, sad...thousand emotions came into my mind within those fraction of secs. I couldn't able to talk with her that moment n dropped the call. With shaking legs i moved towards my office. My eyes were luking deep into space n legs were dragging me. Well, she told me long back that she likes people who r mature, successful n last but not the least they should be MAN...that's y it happened?..does she meant sumthin else by sayin all this?....she got whatever she was searchin for?....did she overstepped the border?....those principles, protocols etc were fake?.....what does this damn MAN means?...all these questions were banging into ma head. That married psycho gave her one proposal, that from "now onwards i'll drop n pick u up from office..DAILY !" Bingo ! that's what exactly she was searchin more hush hush in local buses...running behind trains...breaking ur heads with autowalas. Comfortably sit in car n chit chat with that psycho. U guys must b thinking what happened to my daily talks....

G:OMG ! then how we'll b able to talk D?
D:Does it makes ny sense to talk daily...n u know naa i can't talk to u in front of him (
Thinking*-What is this crap?..y he is not understanding)
G:But D :(...
D:It's ok G i can understand..but what to do(
Thinking*-Phew! At last...samajh gaya bewkoof)
G:Ok :(...

In the meanwhile till date i sensed millions of lies....fake emotions...false promises .
Relationship went on was loosin it's strength...she was getting more comfortable n happy...i was getting tired of askin same question to almighty evryday "Y it happened to me ? :("...while she was busy in nurturing new bonds....i was loosing all hopes...while she was not at all aware of what does this damn "hope" means?....still i was tryin hard to preserve those memories.....while she was just leaving no impression behind this time :(

I won't b able to understand one thing...y ppl changes n still pretends as if nothin got changed??? can they format their memory??...y they make promises which r supposed to b fake at later point of time??...n y ppl like me becomes victim of such situations????....But then i guess that's what they call LIFE...

With this post m ending ma flashback part...till date evrythin is going same. Finally we both r in same city but things r not same now as it use to b there. Hardly she gets time to talk with me. By this time she would have left office with him n now i should also move.
God bless u all ! :)

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